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How is avoiding toxic people a double-edged sword?

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We are bombarded with all sort of mantras that claim to be the recipe to achieve happiness or success. There's positive psychology, law of attraction, NLP and the light use of terms like narcissist. I am not against being informed and interested in becoming a better person. We owe it to ourselves and to the ones around us. After thirty five years or reading self-help books and attending therapy both individually and in groups, I have decided to give myself the gift of just being. I am saturated with all the studying and decided I will now take a sabbatical to just apply my "knowledge". The word knowledge is in quotes because I have realised that we all perceive only bits of the full body of knowledge. It is what resonates with us that we pay attention to, what our unconscious thoughts allow us to connect with.  It has been a very revealing period. A few weeks ago, I was feeling "stuck" and decided, for the first time in my life, not to take action, but to rather

Do you allow yourself to simply feel?

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Knowledge is important. Understanding the way our physical bodies and our minds work is powerful, as it explains the way we feel. And what is life but being in touch with how we perceive our surroundings and the functioning of our internal organs? Many of us reach adulthood without major health complications. We tend to forget about the toothaches or the ear infections of our early years. After all, many of us were fortunate to have caring parents who would make sure we would get over our illnesses.   Growing up in post-war economies with booming opportunities for professional training, set the conditions to aspire to meet the happy endings. Climbing up the corporate ladder or creating an expansive business were breeding ground for believing that a successful career was automatically paired with good health, a beautiful family and a loving home. I could personally fit school and music demanding activities until my late teens, as I made very conscious use of every minute of every day. E